Why personal growth is so difficult (and how to make it easier)

If you spend significant energy on self-improvement and personal growth, you may be familiar with the flip-flop of either spinning your wheels and not getting anywhere, or putting in a lot of work to make progress and being completely drained by the effort.

There’s a lot that can get in way of creating the change we want to see in our lives and a lot in the process of creating change that can make it exhausting. How do we work toward our ideal without freezing up and without wearing ourselves out?

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No resolutions this new year!

We're about to leave 2018 behind and step into the bright possibility of 2019. Are you ready?

When you think about it, it's funny that we make such a big deal about the New Year. Is January 1st that much more enticing than December 31st? Maybe it's all hype. But I do appreciate the opportunity to take stock of what has happened over the last year and to reflect on my hopes for the year to come.

Before the clock strikes midnight, I want to share some thoughts about how we can treat this transition holistically and self-compassionately:

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A healthier relationship to time management (Part I of the Six Intentions)

I’ve decided it’s time to formally introduce you to the main pillars that guide my work.

As my coaching has evolved, I’ve uncovered six principles that are essential ingredients to be able to address your own needs even while caring for others. I call them the Six Intentions.

They are at the core of my coaching programs and at the core of my writing.

To give each of these guiding principles the attention they deserve, I’m going to break them out into two posts.

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Why patience and ambition aren't mutually exclusive

y recent posts have been all about our relationship to time, urgency, and slowing down.

There is so much value to letting go of the feeling that everything needs to happen now and letting time, with all its possibilities, unfold before you.

But there's an important paradox that we need to address.

Patience and ambition often seem at odds with one another.

Sometimes it feels like letting go of urgency also means letting go of our goals and stagnating. Which is not what we want.

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How much can you really do in a week?

For the last few years, I have been eagerly awaiting the day that my schedule would be in my own hands, allowing for more flexibility and more of the things I love.

And then that day arrived this past June.

My husband finished Rabbinical school and we moved to Massachusetts so that he could begin to serve his first community (yep, I'm married to a Rabbi! #funfacts).

I left my day job and, after a few weeks of settling in, began to turn my attention "fully" to coaching.

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Want to make a life shift? First you need an urgency detox

I had an epiphany the other day that I wanted to find a way to sustain my positive self-care habits for the long-term.

I feel my best when I move every day, prioritize cardio exercise and strength training, take a bath and stretch a couple of times a week, meditate on the train on my commute, eat fresh salads and balanced breakfasts, avoid added sugar, make sure to eat adequate protein and fat, and start getting ready for bed at 10pm every night. What do I need to be able to do this more consistently? (Because I've done all of it off and on in the past with much success.)

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What to do when you let someone down

Last month, i wrote a piece for elephant journal about not being in control.

I want to take that a step deeper in regards to controlling other people.

You probably already know this - you cannot control how other people feel. Not even the people who are closest to you and whose feelings and actions effect you most.

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5 Self-soothing techniques for when you're overwhelmed

There has been a lot of movement in my life lately.

My husband is in the middle of a job search, I'm continuing to build and expand my coaching services, and I've had to address some ongoing health concerns.

It's stressful and draining. I do my best to call on patience, gratitude, and curiosity in these moments; those mantras have served me well over the past year and a half. But I've noticed a phenomenon in myself that asks for a different kind of response:

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