The #1 sign that you need to slow down

This week, a theme has come up in my life and in the lives of the people close to me.

We're tired of pushing so hard.

We're tired of performing our best. We're tired of seizing every moment.

Of working hard. Of pulling ourselves up by the bootstraps. Of staying up late to accomplish things and acting the part and being good and just trying so much all the time.

This is not a new feeling.

But there are moments where the realization is so profound that you have to take note.

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The 3 beliefs that will help you reach your goals

 

Last week, a client wrote me this email:

I'm still struggling with feeling like I want too much. Like I'm imagining socialized healthcare, community supported childcare, live music and dancing during everyday activities, access to healthy food locally...but I really want to feel like I'm making practical progress in my everyday life. How can I contextualize and focus on reality while also hoping for the realization of my dreams? Not a simple question, I know.
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How I learned to trust my own wisdom (in 3 steps)

Every day, you're confronted with thousands of decisions, big and small.

The voices of family members, friends, society at large, and your resulting self-doubt make it more than challenging to take steps forward with clarity. They make it downright exhausting. 

What you need is to tune out the noise, tap into your own wisdom, and trust it so that you can move through life with a little less anxiety and a little more ease.

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The real reason you feel guilty

I'm going to let you in on a little secret.

The reason you feel guilty when you do something for yourself and not for other people is not because you are doing something wrong.

But you are receiving messages from everyone around you that you are! So what's that about?

Even the people who love you the most and want you to take care of yourself will make you feel guilty for doing just that.

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Why self-care is unhelpful (and what to do instead)

I'm not a big fan of the concept of self-care.

I use the term"self-care" in the description of my services because it is the easiest way to communicate the idea of taking care of yourself and what you need. But I don't really like the way it's developed in popular culture.

Self-care is talked about as something we need to find time to fit in or prioritize more. And while that's all fine and well, it's not enough.

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3 things you must do to change a habit

There's a lot of advice out there for people trying to change their habits and mindsets.

It can be overwhelming and also misleading. So much of what we see it about trying harder or using your willpower - using guilt and shame tactics that you know I'm not a fan of ;). So I want to distil it down for you to the 3 most important things you need to do when you are trying to make a change so that it actually works and so that you are kind to yourself along the way.

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