3 tips for a weekend that's all about you

It's time. You're ready for a weekend that is actually restorative and restful. Rejuvenating. Renewing. All of the "re-" words. But it's not that easy! You have friends, family, community demanding your attention. And your house. And the dishes and the  laundry and the food you meant to cook and the reading you're supposed to do. Where exactly do you fit in?

 

 

Here are 3 small ways to make this weekend all about you:

 

1. Say no to something

Give yourself permission to say no to something you don't want to do! Or back out of something you already committed to (I know that's a scary one, but it is allowed sometimes). I talk about this one a lot because it is really valuable to be able to say no. But don't go on a crazy "no" binge. Take it one step at a time. Start small.

 

2. Take some amount of time to be completely disconnected

Can you spare an hour? 30 minutes? 5 minutes? Set yourself up for that amount of time to not be needed by anyone. Ask a friend or partner to watch your kids. Put your phone on "do not disturb" (or, even better, turn it off). Save your emails for later (they can wait, I promise). Go sit in the shower or take a walk or dance in your bedroom. Just be you and allow yourself to not be needed just for a little bit.

 

3. Allow yourself to feel

We spend a lot of time fighting our reality. And then fighting ourselves fighting our reality. I don't know about you, but when I get upset, half of my emotions come from me being upset that I'm upset. So instead, when emotions come up this weekend, give yourself permission to feel them. You can choose not to act on them (we always have a choice about how we act). But you have to let yourself feel them. Notice how much energy you save when you aren't fighting yourself.

 

Which of these 3 tips appeals to you most? Will you try one this weekend? All three? Let us know how it goes in the comments!