Posts in Cultivate Support System
Why personal growth is so difficult (and how to make it easier)

If you spend significant energy on self-improvement and personal growth, you may be familiar with the flip-flop of either spinning your wheels and not getting anywhere, or putting in a lot of work to make progress and being completely drained by the effort.

There’s a lot that can get in way of creating the change we want to see in our lives and a lot in the process of creating change that can make it exhausting. How do we work toward our ideal without freezing up and without wearing ourselves out?

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No resolutions this new year!

We're about to leave 2018 behind and step into the bright possibility of 2019. Are you ready?

When you think about it, it's funny that we make such a big deal about the New Year. Is January 1st that much more enticing than December 31st? Maybe it's all hype. But I do appreciate the opportunity to take stock of what has happened over the last year and to reflect on my hopes for the year to come.

Before the clock strikes midnight, I want to share some thoughts about how we can treat this transition holistically and self-compassionately:

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How I learned to minimize self-torture

A lot of the pain we go through on a daily basis is self-inflicted.

I don't mean to say that we can just think our way out of our struggles - as you know, I think positive thinking is a flawed model in many ways.

I also don't mean to imply that we are the cause of our own troubles. I know each of us is dealing with nuanced circumstances that affect our ability to feel our best.

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My top 4 requirements for healthy relationships

In coaching we talk a lot about what "serves" you.

Do your beliefs serve you? What would serve you better? It's such a common phrase that it's become a bit of a joke. But I like the meaning behind it. It's asking "what purpose does this serve in your life? And are you okay with that?"

So let's talk about relationships that serve you. I'm talking any kind of relationship - partner, relative, friend, coworker, mentor. What does it mean for a relationship to serve you?

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