Posts in Personalize Self-Care
5 Self-soothing techniques for when you're overwhelmed

There has been a lot of movement in my life lately.

My husband is in the middle of a job search, I'm continuing to build and expand my coaching services, and I've had to address some ongoing health concerns.

It's stressful and draining. I do my best to call on patience, gratitude, and curiosity in these moments; those mantras have served me well over the past year and a half. But I've noticed a phenomenon in myself that asks for a different kind of response:

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How I learned to minimize self-torture

A lot of the pain we go through on a daily basis is self-inflicted.

I don't mean to say that we can just think our way out of our struggles - as you know, I think positive thinking is a flawed model in many ways.

I also don't mean to imply that we are the cause of our own troubles. I know each of us is dealing with nuanced circumstances that affect our ability to feel our best.

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There’s no “just” about it: how to realistically address self-care

The tendency in the self-care and wellness industry to say "Just make time for yourself!" is an oversimplification.

As I'm sure you know, figuring out how to live a balanced life, how to make more space for yourself is a nuanced process. There's no "just" about it, and framing self-care that way makes those of us who are working hard every day to be our best selves feel invalidated.

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How to let go of anxiety

I have a mild form of generalized anxiety disorder.

On any given day, something will come up to which I will feel disproportionately uneasy.

Maybe I haven’t called my sister back after she called yesterday. Or I'm worrying about my finances even though they are fine right now. Or I'm in a tailspin about all of the items on my to do list that I haven’t gotten to.

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How I learned to trust my own wisdom (in 3 steps)

Every day, you're confronted with thousands of decisions, big and small.

The voices of family members, friends, society at large, and your resulting self-doubt make it more than challenging to take steps forward with clarity. They make it downright exhausting. 

What you need is to tune out the noise, tap into your own wisdom, and trust it so that you can move through life with a little less anxiety and a little more ease.

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Why self-care is unhelpful (and what to do instead)

I'm not a big fan of the concept of self-care.

I use the term"self-care" in the description of my services because it is the easiest way to communicate the idea of taking care of yourself and what you need. But I don't really like the way it's developed in popular culture.

Self-care is talked about as something we need to find time to fit in or prioritize more. And while that's all fine and well, it's not enough.

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3 tips for a weekend that's all about you

It's time. You're ready for a weekend that is actually restorative and restful. Rejuvenating. Renewing. All of the "re-" words. But it's not that easy! You have friends, family, community demanding your attention. And your house. And your kitchen. Where exactly do you fit in?

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What it means to be Good Enough

IT'S EASY TO FEEL LIKE YOU ARE NEVER DOING ENOUGH.

Especially if you are spread thin - none of your responsibilities end up getting the attention you feel they should.

I have been wracking my brain about this. I want to contribute to the world and help to alleviate suffering. I want to dedicate time and energy to standing up for the oppressed and marginalized. I also want to grow my business. And be a good spouse.

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