Posts in Increase Self-Compassion
Making powerful decisions with ease

The past year has been full of unexpected twists and turns in both my personal life and my business life.

The most profound shift is that Louis and I are expecting our first child this November! (There’s no way to make that announcement in a way that truly reflects its significance, is there?)

But that definitely hasn’t been the only upheaval this year.

Having moved states a little over a year ago, adjusting to my new life in Massachusetts while also building up my coaching business wasn’t simple to begin with. Being fully self-employed was not what I expected and I found that anxiety, perfectionism, and being my own boss did not mix that well.

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How mindfulness got in the way of my self-compassion

I have always thought of mindfulness as awareness of one’s emotional, physical, mental, spiritual experience in any given moment. Some people access this through meditation, through breathing, through journaling, processing out loud, or any number of practices that give one access to what is going on in their environment and in their inner world.

I define self-compassion as accepting ourselves for who we are, for our strengths and limitations, and knowing that we are good enough.

These two concepts should fit together nicely!

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Why personal growth is so difficult (and how to make it easier)

If you spend significant energy on self-improvement and personal growth, you may be familiar with the flip-flop of either spinning your wheels and not getting anywhere, or putting in a lot of work to make progress and being completely drained by the effort.

There’s a lot that can get in way of creating the change we want to see in our lives and a lot in the process of creating change that can make it exhausting. How do we work toward our ideal without freezing up and without wearing ourselves out?

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No resolutions this new year!

We're about to leave 2018 behind and step into the bright possibility of 2019. Are you ready?

When you think about it, it's funny that we make such a big deal about the New Year. Is January 1st that much more enticing than December 31st? Maybe it's all hype. But I do appreciate the opportunity to take stock of what has happened over the last year and to reflect on my hopes for the year to come.

Before the clock strikes midnight, I want to share some thoughts about how we can treat this transition holistically and self-compassionately:

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Want to make a life shift? First you need an urgency detox

I had an epiphany the other day that I wanted to find a way to sustain my positive self-care habits for the long-term.

I feel my best when I move every day, prioritize cardio exercise and strength training, take a bath and stretch a couple of times a week, meditate on the train on my commute, eat fresh salads and balanced breakfasts, avoid added sugar, make sure to eat adequate protein and fat, and start getting ready for bed at 10pm every night. What do I need to be able to do this more consistently? (Because I've done all of it off and on in the past with much success.)

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What to do when you let someone down

Last month, i wrote a piece for elephant journal about not being in control.

I want to take that a step deeper in regards to controlling other people.

You probably already know this - you cannot control how other people feel. Not even the people who are closest to you and whose feelings and actions effect you most.

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How I learned to minimize self-torture

A lot of the pain we go through on a daily basis is self-inflicted.

I don't mean to say that we can just think our way out of our struggles - as you know, I think positive thinking is a flawed model in many ways.

I also don't mean to imply that we are the cause of our own troubles. I know each of us is dealing with nuanced circumstances that affect our ability to feel our best.

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There’s no “just” about it: how to realistically address self-care

The tendency in the self-care and wellness industry to say "Just make time for yourself!" is an oversimplification.

As I'm sure you know, figuring out how to live a balanced life, how to make more space for yourself is a nuanced process. There's no "just" about it, and framing self-care that way makes those of us who are working hard every day to be our best selves feel invalidated.

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How to let go of anxiety

I have a mild form of generalized anxiety disorder.

On any given day, something will come up to which I will feel disproportionately uneasy.

Maybe I haven’t called my sister back after she called yesterday. Or I'm worrying about my finances even though they are fine right now. Or I'm in a tailspin about all of the items on my to do list that I haven’t gotten to.

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