How to deal with the pain of change

There are times in life when you find yourself working extra hard to become the person you want to be.

You reflect and you analyze and you figure out that something needs to change. And, if you are lucky enough to have the support that you need to actualize your potential, you set to work making it happen. It could be a change in your attitude or in your interpersonal relationships. Maybe it's about the way you treat yourself or take care of your body.

If you're like me, once you have the realization that you want things to be different, you can't stop until you have become the better version of yourself that you pictured.

For those of us who care about who we are and want to keep stretching our emotional and intellectual intelligence, these periods of work are essential to our happiness.


And they are exhausting.

It is important to acknowledge how challenging it can be to work on yourself. And to know that it is normal to dredge up difficult emotions in the process.

I call this ache in your bones and in your heart growing pains.


You are in the midst of a growth spurt!

Just like when you were younger and your physical and emotional selves were totally out of wack as you adjusted to your new adult body.

When I say out loud to a friend, "I'm having growing pains," here's what it says to me:

-I am in the middle of discovering something that is essential to my forward movement in life

-This work is taking a lot out of me and that is natural

-On the other side, the pain will be gone and I will be more of myself because of it


Just like we tell teenagers that their mood swings and sore muscles will recede, we can remind ourselves that this phase is natural and on the other side we will be better than we were before.


What about you?

Are you having any growing pains right now?

What perspectives help you to move through them?