Posts tagged coaching
How I learned to minimize self-torture

A lot of the pain we go through on a daily basis is self-inflicted.

I don't mean to say that we can just think our way out of our struggles - as you know, I think positive thinking is a flawed model in many ways.

I also don't mean to imply that we are the cause of our own troubles. I know each of us is dealing with nuanced circumstances that affect our ability to feel our best.

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There’s no “just” about it: how to realistically address self-care

The tendency in the self-care and wellness industry to say "Just make time for yourself!" is an oversimplification.

As I'm sure you know, figuring out how to live a balanced life, how to make more space for yourself is a nuanced process. There's no "just" about it, and framing self-care that way makes those of us who are working hard every day to be our best selves feel invalidated.

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3 things you must do to change a habit

There's a lot of advice out there for people trying to change their habits and mindsets.

It can be overwhelming and also misleading. So much of what we see it about trying harder or using your willpower - using guilt and shame tactics that you know I'm not a fan of ;). So I want to distil it down for you to the 3 most important things you need to do when you are trying to make a change so that it actually works and so that you are kind to yourself along the way.

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How to stop being hard on yourself

I know the self-hatred that can surface when you feel like you are not getting anywhere.

You're trying to lose weight and it just won't budge. You want to stop procrastinating at work but every time you try it backfires. You've got financial goals that are really important to you but you don't seem able to save what you want to save.

For me, I've been hard on myself about practically everything. (Any other perfectionists out there?) I don't call my family enough. I made a mistake at work. I ate something I didn't really want to eat. I took a sick day from work when I could have gone in. I could go on forever. 

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