Posts tagged mindfulness
How mindfulness got in the way of my self-compassion

I have always thought of mindfulness as awareness of one’s emotional, physical, mental, spiritual experience in any given moment. Some people access this through meditation, through breathing, through journaling, processing out loud, or any number of practices that give one access to what is going on in their environment and in their inner world.

I define self-compassion as accepting ourselves for who we are, for our strengths and limitations, and knowing that we are good enough.

These two concepts should fit together nicely!

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No resolutions this new year!

We're about to leave 2018 behind and step into the bright possibility of 2019. Are you ready?

When you think about it, it's funny that we make such a big deal about the New Year. Is January 1st that much more enticing than December 31st? Maybe it's all hype. But I do appreciate the opportunity to take stock of what has happened over the last year and to reflect on my hopes for the year to come.

Before the clock strikes midnight, I want to share some thoughts about how we can treat this transition holistically and self-compassionately:

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5 Self-soothing techniques for when you're overwhelmed

There has been a lot of movement in my life lately.

My husband is in the middle of a job search, I'm continuing to build and expand my coaching services, and I've had to address some ongoing health concerns.

It's stressful and draining. I do my best to call on patience, gratitude, and curiosity in these moments; those mantras have served me well over the past year and a half. But I've noticed a phenomenon in myself that asks for a different kind of response:

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How to let go of anxiety

I have a mild form of generalized anxiety disorder.

On any given day, something will come up to which I will feel disproportionately uneasy.

Maybe I haven’t called my sister back after she called yesterday. Or I'm worrying about my finances even though they are fine right now. Or I'm in a tailspin about all of the items on my to do list that I haven’t gotten to.

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Why you can't make up your mind (and what to do about it)

When you are in the midst of big life decisions or changes, you may find that you are constantly changing your mind. It feels like the minute you reach clarity, something comes along to confuse you all over again.

This can really aggravate the process! But that doesn't mean it's a bad thing.

The reason you can't make up your mind is not that you are brash or waffling.

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The #1 sign that you need to slow down

This week, a theme has come up in my life and in the lives of the people close to me.

We're tired of pushing so hard.

We're tired of performing our best. We're tired of seizing every moment.

Of working hard. Of pulling ourselves up by the bootstraps. Of staying up late to accomplish things and acting the part and being good and just trying so much all the time.

This is not a new feeling.

But there are moments where the realization is so profound that you have to take note.

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The 3 beliefs that will help you reach your goals

 

Last week, a client wrote me this email:

I'm still struggling with feeling like I want too much. Like I'm imagining socialized healthcare, community supported childcare, live music and dancing during everyday activities, access to healthy food locally...but I really want to feel like I'm making practical progress in my everyday life. How can I contextualize and focus on reality while also hoping for the realization of my dreams? Not a simple question, I know.
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How I learned to trust my own wisdom (in 3 steps)

Every day, you're confronted with thousands of decisions, big and small.

The voices of family members, friends, society at large, and your resulting self-doubt make it more than challenging to take steps forward with clarity. They make it downright exhausting. 

What you need is to tune out the noise, tap into your own wisdom, and trust it so that you can move through life with a little less anxiety and a little more ease.

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