Posts tagged overcommitment
How much can you really do in a week?

For the last few years, I have been eagerly awaiting the day that my schedule would be in my own hands, allowing for more flexibility and more of the things I love.

And then that day arrived this past June.

My husband finished Rabbinical school and we moved to Massachusetts so that he could begin to serve his first community (yep, I'm married to a Rabbi! #funfacts).

I left my day job and, after a few weeks of settling in, began to turn my attention "fully" to coaching.

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A practical post on boundaries

It's important to me not to give overly-simplistic advice.

Each of you reading this has your own unique set of circumstances and one-size-fits-all solutions or quick fixes are unlikely to help you make lasting change. Plus it can be really invalidating to be told that your problem is not as complex as you think it is. 

Nevertheless, sometimes you just need a little practical advice to give you somewhere to start.

So let's talk about boundaries.

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How I learned to minimize self-torture

A lot of the pain we go through on a daily basis is self-inflicted.

I don't mean to say that we can just think our way out of our struggles - as you know, I think positive thinking is a flawed model in many ways.

I also don't mean to imply that we are the cause of our own troubles. I know each of us is dealing with nuanced circumstances that affect our ability to feel our best.

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There’s no “just” about it: how to realistically address self-care

The tendency in the self-care and wellness industry to say "Just make time for yourself!" is an oversimplification.

As I'm sure you know, figuring out how to live a balanced life, how to make more space for yourself is a nuanced process. There's no "just" about it, and framing self-care that way makes those of us who are working hard every day to be our best selves feel invalidated.

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How to let go of anxiety

I have a mild form of generalized anxiety disorder.

On any given day, something will come up to which I will feel disproportionately uneasy.

Maybe I haven’t called my sister back after she called yesterday. Or I'm worrying about my finances even though they are fine right now. Or I'm in a tailspin about all of the items on my to do list that I haven’t gotten to.

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Your brain is lying to you (and how to stop it)

Our brains are not super honest to us.

They mean well. But a lot of the time they are outright lying.

See, the job of your brain is to make meaning out of the world you see. But a lot of the time, it is trying so hard to make meaning that it makes meaning that isn't there.

Consider when you get negative feedback at work.

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How to stop being hard on yourself

I know the self-hatred that can surface when you feel like you are not getting anywhere.

You're trying to lose weight and it just won't budge. You want to stop procrastinating at work but every time you try it backfires. You've got financial goals that are really important to you but you don't seem able to save what you want to save.

For me, I've been hard on myself about practically everything. (Any other perfectionists out there?) I don't call my family enough. I made a mistake at work. I ate something I didn't really want to eat. I took a sick day from work when I could have gone in. I could go on forever. 

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The truth about your thoughts

I want to share a bit about cognitive distortions. These thinking habits plague all of us! (And I really mean all of us.) And they get in the way of us making changes we want to make in our lives. Learning about distorted thinking drastically affected my own recovery from anxiety and my ability to non-judgmentally question my own thoughts...

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