Posts tagged perfectionism
What to do when you let someone down

Last month, i wrote a piece for elephant journal about not being in control.

I want to take that a step deeper in regards to controlling other people.

You probably already know this - you cannot control how other people feel. Not even the people who are closest to you and whose feelings and actions effect you most.

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The 3 beliefs that will help you reach your goals

 

Last week, a client wrote me this email:

I'm still struggling with feeling like I want too much. Like I'm imagining socialized healthcare, community supported childcare, live music and dancing during everyday activities, access to healthy food locally...but I really want to feel like I'm making practical progress in my everyday life. How can I contextualize and focus on reality while also hoping for the realization of my dreams? Not a simple question, I know.
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How to get out of the perfectionism trap

You may have noticed that my logo is a peach. It is inspired by an ingenious quote from the model Dita von Teese. “You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there's still going to be somebody who hates peaches.” The point of this is not to be bummed about who likes us and who doesn't. The point us that you can do everything right and still someone might not jive with your personality.

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Why trying to make others happy doesn't work

Usually perfectionism is portrayed as an intense desire to do everything to the T, to have every detail be lined up just right. But there’s a little bit more to perfectionism than that which relates directly to taking risks and getting what we need. Perfectionism is closely linked to vulnerability. This is a Brené Brown lesson that has changed my life.

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