Posts in Deal with Overwhelm
Want to make a life shift? First you need an urgency detox

I had an epiphany the other day that I wanted to find a way to sustain my positive self-care habits for the long-term.

I feel my best when I move every day, prioritize cardio exercise and strength training, take a bath and stretch a couple of times a week, meditate on the train on my commute, eat fresh salads and balanced breakfasts, avoid added sugar, make sure to eat adequate protein and fat, and start getting ready for bed at 10pm every night. What do I need to be able to do this more consistently? (Because I've done all of it off and on in the past with much success.)

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A practical post on boundaries

It's important to me not to give overly-simplistic advice.

Each of you reading this has your own unique set of circumstances and one-size-fits-all solutions or quick fixes are unlikely to help you make lasting change. Plus it can be really invalidating to be told that your problem is not as complex as you think it is. 

Nevertheless, sometimes you just need a little practical advice to give you somewhere to start.

So let's talk about boundaries.

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How I learned to minimize self-torture

A lot of the pain we go through on a daily basis is self-inflicted.

I don't mean to say that we can just think our way out of our struggles - as you know, I think positive thinking is a flawed model in many ways.

I also don't mean to imply that we are the cause of our own troubles. I know each of us is dealing with nuanced circumstances that affect our ability to feel our best.

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How to let go of anxiety

I have a mild form of generalized anxiety disorder.

On any given day, something will come up to which I will feel disproportionately uneasy.

Maybe I haven’t called my sister back after she called yesterday. Or I'm worrying about my finances even though they are fine right now. Or I'm in a tailspin about all of the items on my to do list that I haven’t gotten to.

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What’s with all the urgency?

There is a fine line for me between a satisfying, enriching day-to-day and a draining one.

I like to have a few different projects going on: something work related, something family related, something social, something spiritual, something creative. Having a hand in each of these baskets makes me feel like my life is coming together and I have what I need to be happy and fulfilled.

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The #1 sign that you need to slow down

This week, a theme has come up in my life and in the lives of the people close to me.

We're tired of pushing so hard.

We're tired of performing our best. We're tired of seizing every moment.

Of working hard. Of pulling ourselves up by the bootstraps. Of staying up late to accomplish things and acting the part and being good and just trying so much all the time.

This is not a new feeling.

But there are moments where the realization is so profound that you have to take note.

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The 3 beliefs that will help you reach your goals

 

Last week, a client wrote me this email:

I'm still struggling with feeling like I want too much. Like I'm imagining socialized healthcare, community supported childcare, live music and dancing during everyday activities, access to healthy food locally...but I really want to feel like I'm making practical progress in my everyday life. How can I contextualize and focus on reality while also hoping for the realization of my dreams? Not a simple question, I know.
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How I learned to trust my own wisdom (in 3 steps)

Every day, you're confronted with thousands of decisions, big and small.

The voices of family members, friends, society at large, and your resulting self-doubt make it more than challenging to take steps forward with clarity. They make it downright exhausting. 

What you need is to tune out the noise, tap into your own wisdom, and trust it so that you can move through life with a little less anxiety and a little more ease.

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