Posts in Increase Self-Compassion
Want to make a life shift? First you need an urgency detox

I had an epiphany the other day that I wanted to find a way to sustain my positive self-care habits for the long-term.

I feel my best when I move every day, prioritize cardio exercise and strength training, take a bath and stretch a couple of times a week, meditate on the train on my commute, eat fresh salads and balanced breakfasts, avoid added sugar, make sure to eat adequate protein and fat, and start getting ready for bed at 10pm every night. What do I need to be able to do this more consistently? (Because I've done all of it off and on in the past with much success.)

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What to do when you let someone down

Last month, i wrote a piece for elephant journal about not being in control.

I want to take that a step deeper in regards to controlling other people.

You probably already know this - you cannot control how other people feel. Not even the people who are closest to you and whose feelings and actions effect you most.

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How I learned to minimize self-torture

A lot of the pain we go through on a daily basis is self-inflicted.

I don't mean to say that we can just think our way out of our struggles - as you know, I think positive thinking is a flawed model in many ways.

I also don't mean to imply that we are the cause of our own troubles. I know each of us is dealing with nuanced circumstances that affect our ability to feel our best.

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There’s no “just” about it: how to realistically address self-care

The tendency in the self-care and wellness industry to say "Just make time for yourself!" is an oversimplification.

As I'm sure you know, figuring out how to live a balanced life, how to make more space for yourself is a nuanced process. There's no "just" about it, and framing self-care that way makes those of us who are working hard every day to be our best selves feel invalidated.

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How to let go of anxiety

I have a mild form of generalized anxiety disorder.

On any given day, something will come up to which I will feel disproportionately uneasy.

Maybe I haven’t called my sister back after she called yesterday. Or I'm worrying about my finances even though they are fine right now. Or I'm in a tailspin about all of the items on my to do list that I haven’t gotten to.

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Why you can't make up your mind (and what to do about it)

When you are in the midst of big life decisions or changes, you may find that you are constantly changing your mind. It feels like the minute you reach clarity, something comes along to confuse you all over again.

This can really aggravate the process! But that doesn't mean it's a bad thing.

The reason you can't make up your mind is not that you are brash or waffling.

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The #1 sign that you need to slow down

This week, a theme has come up in my life and in the lives of the people close to me.

We're tired of pushing so hard.

We're tired of performing our best. We're tired of seizing every moment.

Of working hard. Of pulling ourselves up by the bootstraps. Of staying up late to accomplish things and acting the part and being good and just trying so much all the time.

This is not a new feeling.

But there are moments where the realization is so profound that you have to take note.

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The 3 beliefs that will help you reach your goals

 

Last week, a client wrote me this email:

I'm still struggling with feeling like I want too much. Like I'm imagining socialized healthcare, community supported childcare, live music and dancing during everyday activities, access to healthy food locally...but I really want to feel like I'm making practical progress in my everyday life. How can I contextualize and focus on reality while also hoping for the realization of my dreams? Not a simple question, I know.
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