How unhelpful is it to be told to “just find a way to make time for you!” when you have other people depending on you?
On a scale from “very” to “completely,” I would say completely.
It’s true that you never have enough time in the day to do the things you really want to do. But you look around at the solutions being offered and think - it’s not so simple to create boundaries or to manage your time!
You have people you care about who all need a piece of you and you aren’t willing to sacrifice your care of them. And being told that you should be able to just makes you feel incompetent and guilty.
Nevertheless, you hate that feeling when 10 PM rolls around and you’ve only gotten done the things you absolutely need to do. Or that sense that you are doing things because you are supposed to and can’t tell anymore what you actually want or need. You feel boxed in and can’t find any reasonable alternative.
You have built your life around taking care of other people - and you are not alone! I am a giver and a nurturer and I know what it feels like to be overwhelmed by conflicting priorities and to feel frustrated by the “solutions” being offered.
Does this sound familiar to you?
- You never have enough time in the day no matter how well you prioritize.
- You get everything done you absolutely need to get done, but you can never get ahead of the curve.
- You know there are some things you are doing just because you “should”, but then you second guess yourself and feel guilty for wanting to stop.
- You can say to yourself “I can’t possibly do everything,” but you have a hard time actually setting boundaries.
- You feel like no matter what you do it’s not enough and you are full of guilt from being pulled between your conflicting priorities.
You know that if you let things continue as they are, you will be missing out on the joys of life.
Too many moments have already gone by that you wanted to be emotionally and mentally present for, but were too out of energy and too conflicted to enjoy.
A Custom Fit Life will get you out of this trap.
You'll be able to craft a new reality for yourself that takes into account the complex dynamics in your life, instead of dismissing them.
I want to show you how to sort through the noise so that you can figure out which obligations in your life are actually important to you. You’ll find it much easier to let go of the things you don’t want or need, to set yourself up with a self care plan that actually suits you, and to create a support system that will work for your life.
Imagine how it would feel to reduce the chaos and anxiety, to feel confident in the choices you make, and to actually enjoy the free time you have.
Here’s what you get with A Custom Fit Life:
5 weekly one-on-one phone calls where we will:
- Week 1 - Sort through your competing priorities and figure out what is actually important.
- Week 2 - Determine what shifts you can make with this new knowledge.
- Week 3 - Decide what "self care" means to you and how it fits in with your other priorities.
- Week 4 - Create a support system that will work for your life.
- Week 5 - Figure out your next steps and set intentions for moving forward.
Before each session, you’ll fill out a thorough questionnaire.
This will help you think about where you’re at and what you’d like to get from our time together and will give me a full picture of the dynamics in your life so that I can be as helpful to you as possible.
In between sessions, you’ll be taking the action steps you decide on during our calls
You'll also be emailing me to keep me up to speed - you can only make change through action!
I will be available for email support throughout the program
To make sure you have maximum clarity as you take steps to create your custom fit life.
Questions? Email me directly to discuss whether cfl is a good fit for you.
Registration is open!
More about A Custom Fit Life
Where do you work?
I offer all of my programs by phone! We can work together no matter where you live.
How long is each coaching session?
Each coaching session is 60 minutes long to give us a solid block of time to craft your custom fit life.
Do you give homework?
Usually you will come up with the actions you want to take in between sessions, based on what we’ve figured out during our time together. If you are having trouble coming up with something you want to do, I am always happy to provide ideas. I will give you boundless encouragement to take action, but no grades and no judgement.
How do I know if this is the right time for me to do CFL?
It’s very common for women to put off creating the balance they need because “it isn’t the right time”. Let me tell you - it is never the right time. Balance does not fall into your lap (I wish!). What’s important is that you feel a sense of urgency, that you have had enough and you are ready to make a change. If that’s the case, A Custom Fit Life is right for you.
What makes you so sure I can have the life I want?
Another common concern is that it is simply not possible in your line of work or in your set of circumstances to make time for yourself or shift your priorities. This is exactly why CFL exists. Because if you look at your life on the surface, you’re right! There is no room to shift. And that’s why we take a closer look at the things you spend your time on and the voices that are telling you what you’re supposed to do, so that we can paint a clear picture of what’s important to you. The result won’t be a fairytale filled with jaunts in the woods and endless bubble baths. It will be the difference between continuing with the exhausting status quo and choosing intentionally what deserves your time and energy.
What if I can’t afford it?
Accessibility of my services is important to me. If you are unable to pay in full now, you can pay in 2 or 4 monthly installments. If you still have financial concerns, book a consult and let’s discuss.
Want to know more?
Gabriella Feingold helps women who have built their lives around taking care of other people to take care of themselves. She shows them how to sort through the noise of their competing priorities to figure out what is important to them, how to have a healthier relationship with time and time management, and how to stop feeling guilty so they can finally create the intentional life they deserve. Gabriella has been working in interpersonal relations and personal development since 2011, using applied theatre, facilitation, and life coaching to help thoughtful and compassionate people make change in their lives. She lives in White Plains, NY with her husband, Louis, and thrives on performing in community theatre, creating amateur pottery, and jumping ocean waves. Read more about Coaching with Gabriella here.
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