Integrated Self-Care

You are...

A giver.

You want to make people happy and to contribute positively to the world.

Attentive.

You pay close attention to what the people close to you need. In fact, that's where most of your energy goes. 

Full of integrity.

You can't just stop taking care of the people and things you take care of. They are important to you. You value being a giving person and you don't want to sacrifice that.

And also...

You're exhausted. 

 

You're afraid of...

Letting people down.

Not being good enough.

Being perceived as needy, unreasonable, unfriendly, unwelcoming, or overwhelmed.

Betraying your values.

And also...

You know something needs to change.

 

you struggle with...

Over-commitment.

Competing priorities.

Being unable to say "no".

Feeling stuck and hopeless, because it's not that easy to just "make time for yourself" when that would mean sacrificing other things that you care about.

And yet...

You believe there must be a way for you to find more balance without being wracked with guilt.

 

And you're right.

Here's my proposal. i think you're ready.

Take a journey of curiosity. Where you aren't so afraid to mess up and you feel confident and grounded in your lifestyle changes.

Shift your inner voice (the one that twists the truth to keep you stuck in your old patterns), set powerful intentions, and take real steps to value your own needs.

Appreciate how giving you are and work with your giving nature instead of trying to deny it. Because it's one of the best things about you.

Acknowledge your uncertainty and all of the complexity of your life and move forward anyway.

 

you don't have to figure it out by yourself.

Integrated Self-Care (ISC) is a holistic coaching program that will help you let go of over-commitment, establish boundaries, and create a better self-care and support system so that you can finally make room for yourself.

It's not a quick fix.

It's not one-size-fits-all.

It's a personalized, in-depth experience that gives you the space and tools you need to get back in the driver's seat of your own life.

 

In Integrated Self-Care you will...

  • Define your own vision and let go of what you think you are supposed to do
  • Receive permission (from yourself!) to set parameters for how much you can give and when
  • Feel a sense of excitement and possibility for change instead of dread
  • Find time for the things you value and love
  • Trust in your decision making and feel free to make mistakes and try again
  • Embrace more freedom and more purpose
  • Be able to choose what your life looks like.

You'll stop spending all of your energy on guilt, disappointment, and frustration so that you can experience more ease and contentment in your ever-evolving life.

 

The 6 Intentions

ISC covers six different topics, or intentions, that are essential for creating a life in which you are better able to care for yourself.

We will cover these intentions over the course of 14 weekly coaching sessions - each one 60 minutes by phone or video chat.

  • For each intention, we will dedicate one session to addressing the inner voices and the mindset shifts you need, and one session to narrowing in on what changes you crave and what action steps will get you there.
  • Before each coaching session, you will receive a reflective questionnaire to help you make the most out of our coaching time.
  • An introduction coaching session will help us get to know each other and establish your goals for the program. We will always return to these goals so that you know that you are getting what you came for.
  • Our final session will help you review your accomplishments and establish next steps after the program.
 
It’s hard to choose the best thing about working with Gabriella. In our time together, I discovered my desire to seek new work and creative expression outlets, I unpacked beliefs about parenting and family that were limiting me, I took practical action toward my ideal life, and I set thoughtful goals for my next steps. Gabriella has an ability to understand such a wide range of thoughts, concepts, and emotions and is so on top of catching details with a big picture perspective.

Needing both freedom and structure can make it difficult to actually make changes in my life because I feel stuck between the two. Now, though, I feel confident in my ability to move forward in my professional and personal life and trust myself to make the right decisions for myself and for my family.
— Elinor Klein (Fairfax, VA)

i know it feels really complicated right now.

As you might have guessed, I'm a lot like you: attentive, caring, intuitive and attuned to the needs of those around me. And I used to find myself exhausted from trying to be present for the people who depended on me, to play my part in my broader community, to have an active social life, and to fit in personal enrichment activities. It felt like I never had a moment to breathe.

But I didn't want to give any of it up. Because all of these things were important to me.

Nevertheless, I knew I needed to find another way. Over time (and with the help of many mentors, books, and journal entries), I learned how to embrace all of these wants and needs without constantly over-committing and over-stretching myself.

And I want to give you a shortcut to this lighter, more sustainable way of being.

 

Sound like a good fit?

Schedule a free 20-minute consult so we can make sure this is a good choice for you.

 
I’m very committed to the work I do and the people I care about. Before working with Gabriella, I was tired and stretched too thin. I believed in principles of self-care and wholeness in theory, but couldn’t manage to live those beliefs myself. I was unforgiving of myself when I failed to meet my own high standards, which was often.

Gabriella understood what I struggled with, why it feels so necessary and yet so exhausting to be involved in social justice work, and the challenge of valuing my own well-being in the face of so much injustice and suffering. Working with Gabriella, I got tools to help me say no, to assert my need for peace and quiet, and to not be consumed with guilt. But I also got a deep dive into why I have those expectations of myself in the first place. I have resources to look to for support and inspiration, tools for making choices, and a new clarity about what I’m doing all this work for.

Gabriella had a genuine interest in what I was thinking and saying, and genuine enthusiasm for the steps I was taking. I know I am not alone in my circles in having difficulties with self-care, and I feel confident that Gabriella ‘gets’ the issues I and many of my friends and peers struggle with. And she’s nice to talk to, too!
— Holly B. (New York, NY)

FAQ

Where do you work?

I offer all of my programs virtually! We can work together no matter where you live.

 

What do you mean by "Integrated Self-Care"?

I call this program Integrated Self-Care because self-care is about so much more than improving your fitness or getting massages. It's about valuing your own needs and learning to recognize them and get them met on a daily basis. In ISC, you will truly integrate self-care into your life by making sure you have the foundations you need to do so, by receiving support and accountability, and by learning to take one step at a time with curiosity and patience until you have created a more fulfilling and sustainable life.

 

Who is this for?

If you have read this entire page and thought to yourself "that's me!" Integrated Self-Care (ISC) is for you. If you identify as a community leader, caregiver, people-pleaser, or helping professional, ISC is for you. I aim to be inclusive to people of all genders, religions, races, ethnicities, abilities, and backgrounds. If you aren't sure and you want to chat about it, shoot me an email.

 

who is this not for?

If you are looking to be more productive, this program may not be for you. ISC will help you manage your time in ways that feel better to you, but part of the objective is to let go of having to do it all. If you are just looking for increased efficiency, you may not get what you came for. (But if you are constantly overrun by the feeling that you need to be more productive and you are ready to shift away from that, then ISC would be a great fit to show you how!)

 

is there homework?

You will decide on the actions you want to take in between sessions based on what we’ve figured out during our time together. If you are having trouble coming up with an action step, I am always happy to help you brainstorm.

 

How much does ISC cost?

The total cost for ISC is $1185. This includes everything: the 14 one-on-one sessions, email support in between, and the pre-session questionnaires. ISC is crafted so that, by the end, you have all of the tools you need to go off on your own and continue to make confident choices about your life. If you find that you want ongoing support after ISC, you will have the option of "I Got Your Back" maintenance sessions as needed, for an additional cost.

Accessibility of my services is important to me. You can pay in 3 or 6 monthly installments (as low as $197 a month) at no extra charge. If you still have financial concerns, book a consult and let’s discuss.

 

What makes you so sure I can have the life I want?

You might believe that it is simply not possible in your line of work or in your set of circumstances to make time for yourself or shift your priorities. This is exactly why I do this work. Because if you look at your life on the surface, you’re right! There is no room to shift. So we take a closer look at the things you spend your time on and the voices that are telling you what you’re supposed to do, to paint a clear picture of what’s important to you. The result won’t be a fairy tale filled with jaunts in the woods and endless bubble baths. It will be the difference between continuing with the exhausting status quo and choosing intentionally what deserves your time and energy.

 

Ready to make it happen? Book a consult now.

 
I was eager to work with Gabriella even though my issues felt more messy and nuanced than just needing more time for myself, so I gave it a shot. In our time together, I truly have felt a profound felt shift in my life, increasingly aligning my thoughts and my actions with who I want to be. Our work covered so much ground on top of the general framework of the program, including changing my relationship to my creative process as an artist, engaging in a path to find new work, and finding more self-validation while navigating my many differing personal identities and spaces. Gabriella was able to help me sort through complexity in a practical way— sometimes I feel like I’m all jumbled and contradictory in my desire to push forward with lots of goals and dreams, while also finding more time just to relax and “be.” Gabriella created space for both of those truths to exist at the same time and guided me towards mindful ways to have both.

If you are looking for more support in aligning your life to your values and desires in concrete, manageable steps, then you should check out Gabriella’s workthis program! Her programs are clearly designed for each individual client and can be molded to your unique circumstances.

Gabriella, thank you for being so caring, insightful, and WISE!! You clearly have a gift for holding space for people and for sorting through the messy nuance of life to find constructive solutions.
— Libby Mislan (Queens, NY)

Working with Gabriella has really helped me to understand myself better. I feel an improved sense of security in who I am and how I’m running things in both my business and my life.

Before we started, I was anxious and worried about how my professionalism was viewed by others and whether I was taking the right steps toward the dream I had. Gabriella’s helped erase a decade of bad work experience and institutionalized ‘isms that had really damaged my confidence. She helped me re-find that fierceness I’d packed away. I feel real. I’ve re-established who I am as a professional, grown more resiliency, and say “f*** it” more often.

Gabriella was incredibly professional. Her patience and guidance has been exceptional.

I’d say mums, business owners, people with lives that are so filled with responsibility that they find it difficult to breathe, should all work with Gabriella. But, I share her blog posts with everyone I know because her advice and perspective applies to any situation.

The work we did together has also made me much more confident. It’s made me feel like being super organized, passionate, emotional, and driven finally has a place in my world. I’m owning my personality, my business approaches, and my relationships with an unapologetic attitude. I’m a stress-head, I’m quirky and I no longer apologise or feel anxious about these traits being discovered. The amount of confidence and mindset shifts I gained from your course has been beyond my expectations. My care practice and new mindset approach have lasted longer than any counselling session. You are in my head with your kind, thoughtful guidance and your words continue to empower me months later. What more is there to say than Thank you??
— Hannah Taylor-Johnson (Ontario, Canada)
 

 
Before working with Gabriella, my life was a bit all over the place. I’d talk myself out of doing things I wanted to be doing and force myself into doing things I felt obligated to do instead. I would often commit too much to other people before taking care of myself. I felt guilty and conflicted. But I also liked the fullness of my social life and didn’t want to restructure my life too much or limit myself.

From the beginning, Gabriella understood where I was coming from and was open-minded and creative coming up with solutions that would work for me. I discovered my own ways of aligning my commitments, my self-care, and my support system with my values. Framing my priorities in that way has been a major shift.

Because of our work together, I’m now able to be flexible with myself when I’m trying to improve my situation and if one thing doesn’t work, I can try something new. Gabriella is awesome - mindful, knowledgeable, creative and caring.
— Vanessa Chalem (Cambridge, MA)

About Me

I help people who have built their lives around taking care of others to take care of themselves. I show them how to sort through the noise of their competing priorities to figure out what is important to them, how to have a healthier relationship with time and time management, and how to stop feeling guilty so they can finally create the intentional life they deserve. I have been working in interpersonal relations and personal development since 2011, using applied theatre, facilitation, and life coaching to help thoughtful and compassionate people make change in their lives. I live in Wayland, MA with her husband, Louis, and thrive on performing in community theatre, creating amateur pottery, and jumping in the ocean . Read more of my story here.