You want to make people happy and to contribute positively to the world.
You pay close attention to what the people close to you need. In fact, that's where most of your energy goes.
Full of integrity.
You can't just stop taking care of the people and things you take care of. They are important to you. You value being a giving person and you don't want to sacrifice that.
You're afraid of...
Letting people down.
Not being good enough.
Being perceived as needy, unreasonable, unfriendly, unwelcoming, or overwhelmed.
Betraying your values.
You know something needs to change.
you struggle with...
Being unable to say "no".
Feeling stuck and hopeless, because it's not that easy to just "make time for yourself" when that would mean sacrificing other things that you care about.
You believe there must be a way for you to find more balance without being wracked with guilt.
And you're right.
Here's my proposal. i think you're ready.
Take a journey of curiosity. Where you aren't so afraid to mess up and you feel confident and grounded in your lifestyle changes.
Shift your inner voice (the one that twists the truth to keep you stuck in your old patterns), set powerful intentions, and take real steps to value your own needs.
Appreciate how giving you are and work with your giving nature instead of trying to deny it. Because it's one of the best things about you.
Acknowledge your uncertainty and all of the complexity of your life and move forward anyway.
you don't have to figure it out by yourself.
Integrated Self-Care (ISC) is a holistic coaching program that will help you let go of over-commitment, establish boundaries, and create a better self-care and support system so that you can finally make room for yourself.
It's not a quick fix.
It's not one-size-fits-all.
It's a personalized, in-depth experience that gives you the space and tools you need to get back in the driver's seat of your own life.
In Integrated Self-Care you will...
Define your own vision and let go of what you think you are supposed to do
Receive permission (from yourself!) to set parameters for how much you can give and when
Feel a sense of excitement and possibility for change instead of dread
Find time for the things you value and love
Trust in your decision making and feel free to make mistakes and try again
Embrace more freedom and more purpose
Be able to choose what your life looks like.
You'll stop spending all of your energy on guilt, disappointment, and frustration so that you can experience more ease and contentment in your ever-evolving life.
The 6 Intentions
ISC covers six different topics, or intentions, that are essential for creating a life in which you are better able to care for yourself.
We will cover these intentions and more over the course of Integrated Self-Care.
The program includes:
14 weekly one-on-one coaching sessions (60 minutes by phone or video chat).
An introduction coaching session will help us get to know each other and establish your goals for the program. We will always return to these goals so that you know that you are getting what you came for. (1 session)
For each intention, we will dedicate one session to addressing the inner voices and the mindset shifts you need, and one session to narrowing in on what changes you crave and what action steps will get you there. (12 sessions)
Our final session will help you review your accomplishments and establish next steps after the program. (1 session)
A reflective questionnaire before each session will help you make the most out of our coaching time.
Action steps that we will decide on together at the end of each session will ensure that you take your new insights directly into your day-to-day life, integrating incremental shifts as you go.
Email support in between sessions will encourage you to check in on your action steps and feel supported throughout this process.
i know it feels really complicated right now.
As you might have guessed, I'm a lot like you: attentive, caring, intuitive and attuned to the needs of those around me. And I used to find myself exhausted from trying to be present for the people who depended on me, to play my part in my broader community, to have an active social life, and to fit in personal enrichment activities. It felt like I never had a moment to breathe.
But I didn't want to give any of it up. Because all of these things were important to me.
Nevertheless, I knew I needed to find another way. Over time (and with the help of many mentors, books, and journal entries), I learned how to embrace all of these wants and needs without constantly over-committing and over-stretching myself.
And I want to give you a shortcut to this lighter, more sustainable way of being.
Sound like a good fit?
Schedule a free 20-minute consult or send me an email so we can make sure this is a good choice for you.
Where do you work?
I offer all of my programs virtually! We can work together no matter where you live.
What do you mean by "Integrated Self-Care"?
I call this program Integrated Self-Care because self-care is about so much more than improving your fitness or getting massages. It's about valuing your own needs and learning to recognize them and get them met on a daily basis. In ISC, you will truly integrate self-care into your life by making sure you have the foundations you need to do so, by receiving support and accountability, and by learning to take one step at a time with curiosity and patience until you have created a more fulfilling and sustainable life.
Who is this for?
If you have read this entire page and thought to yourself "that's me!" Integrated Self-Care (ISC) is for you. If you identify as a community leader, caregiver, people-pleaser, or helping professional, ISC is for you. I aim to be inclusive to people of all genders, religions, races, ethnicities, abilities, and backgrounds. If you aren't sure and you want to chat about it, shoot me an email.
who is this not for?
If you are looking to be more productive, this program may not be for you. ISC will help you manage your time in ways that feel better to you, but part of the objective is to let go of having to do it all. If you are just looking for increased efficiency, you may not get what you came for. (But if you are constantly overrun by the feeling that you need to be more productive and you are ready to shift away from that, then ISC would be a great fit to show you how!)
is there homework?
You will decide on the actions you want to take in between sessions based on what we’ve figured out during our time together. If you are having trouble coming up with an action step, I am always happy to help you brainstorm.
How much does ISC cost?
The total cost for ISC is currently
This includes everything: the 14 one-on-one sessions, email support in between, and the pre-session questionnaires. ISC is crafted so that, by the end, you have all of the tools you need to go off on your own and continue to make confident choices about your life. If you find that you want ongoing support after ISC, you will have the option of "I Got Your Back" maintenance sessions as needed, for an additional cost.
What makes you so sure I can have the life I want?
You might believe that it is simply not possible in your line of work or in your set of circumstances to make time for yourself or shift your priorities. This is exactly why I do this work. Because if you look at your life on the surface, you’re right! There is no room to shift. So we take a closer look at the things you spend your time on and the voices that are telling you what you’re supposed to do, to paint a clear picture of what’s important to you. The result won’t be a fairy tale filled with jaunts in the woods and endless bubble baths. It will be the difference between continuing with the exhausting status quo and choosing intentionally what deserves your time and energy.
Ready to make it happen? Book a consult now.
I help people who have built their lives around taking care of others to take care of themselves. I show them how to sort through the noise of their competing priorities to figure out what is important to them, how to have a healthier relationship with time and time management, and how to stop feeling guilty so they can finally create the intentional life they deserve. I have been working in interpersonal relations and personal development since 2011, using applied theatre, facilitation, and life coaching to help thoughtful and compassionate people make change in their lives. I live in Wayland, MA with my husband, Louis, and thrive on performing in community theatre, creating amateur pottery, and jumping in the ocean . Read more of my story here.